Frustrated.
That’s how I feel sometimes when people comment on my body. I eat an abundance of fruits and vegetables, I work hard at the gym, I get lots of sleep … I do everything I’m supposed to do to live the healthiest life. And as a result, I’m happy with my body. Very happy! I’m healthy. I’m proud of myself – because while I was never overweight when I was in high school and college, I wasn’t always leading the healthiest, most balanced lifestyle.
But I get so frustrated when some people make snap judgements about me. Some people look at me … and because I fit comfortably into a size 4 … they just assume “that girl doesn’t eat” or “that girl is a gymaholic”. I’ve received this from family, friends and even coworkers (one in particular says it regularly). Or, on the flip side of not eating at all … friends have watched me enjoy a plate of pasta and a cupcake for dessert and then said, “you must have a really high metabolism, because there’s no way you can eat that sort of stuff and look like you do without one”.
My metabolism tends to work at a higher rate because I get off my butt and WORK OUT. And I can enjoy a plate of spaghetti and a delicious dessert because I believe in balance. I’m not going to deprive myself from things I enjoy (hello, chocolate and carbs!). I just know how to do it right.
People I haven’t seen in a while? They say “oh my goodness, there’s nothing to you!”. That’s most definitely not true. I’m strong, I have muscle. There’s A LOT to me.
5 lbs of muscle vs 5 lbs of fat
I don’t go through life fishing for compliments from others. I live my lifestyle for me, because it makes me feel good. And because of this outlook, I really shouldn’t let those words distract me. But they do sometimes, I’m only human.
If you’re going to comment on my body … don’t put me in that category of people who have come to look like they do through unhealthy means.
Don’t reflect your unhappiness with your self-image by cutting me down. Also, there’s a BIG difference between being thin and being fit. I am fit. Stop telling me I’m skinny.
Maybe this post doesn’t make any sense. If you read this and it just seems like a big jumble of words, I apologize. Come back tomorrow for something more lighthearted and coherent 
I just wanted to get this off my chest, and the last thing I want to do is come across as having a “holier than thou” sort of attitude. I just want to know if anyone else feels the same way.
Do you put work into living a healthy life, and people assume (because they might be uneducated or have a poor view of their own body) that you are unhealthy? Do you let it get to you like I do sometimes?
yes! yes and more yes. this post hits home with me. i think others’ sometimes judge quickly like you say because of their own insecurities. for example, i hate when i’m hitting the pavement in the morning for a run and someone will say, ‘are you really going to run right now – why don’t you just relax like us’? this makes me feel a certain way – but perhaps this comes from a place where they wish they could only do the same. just do your own thing, girl.
I’m glad someone else feels the same way!
This post makes perfect sense. I get comments about being too skinny sometimes. I am a gangly person and have always had very skinny arms. Sometimes when I wear tank tops, they look extra skinny and people tell me to go eat a burger or eat chocolate so I can put meat on my bones. People tend to look at you and make a snap judgement. They see you on the treadmill and probably think, oh why is she pushing so hard, she probably doesn’t eat either. They don’t see the yummy dessert or big dinner you eat after!
I used to deal with this when struggling w/disordered eating. I’d see a skinny girl eating veggies and assume that was all she ate, and that I needed to eat veggies to stay skinny too. We need to realize there is more than what we see in the one moment and that can really apply to many situations.
Thinking before speaking is SO important. I’m no saint, I’ve done it. But I realize how much these snap judgements can really bother people now … and I’ve reinstated that filter between my brain and my mouth
Just found your blog and I love this post. I get the same thing from people, especially my co-workers. I get such a hard time for eating healthy, and it’s so frustrating…. Frankly, if I’m not making a comment about your food choices, I don’t want to hear a thing about mine!
Exactly!!! And thank you so much for stopping by my blog – I really appreciate it!
Hey love : )
Oh people judge way too much and it can be hurtful too when they do.
You know you are healthy and happy , don’t worry about what others think!
<3
Oh Katie I just love ya
I believe that you can be both fit and skinny
as opposed to fit and large (like football players).
Hi!
Just discovered your blog today, and I love it! I have a slight obsession with healthy living blogs and when I find a new one, I read as many posts as I can before my eyes get crazy sore haha, so that’s how I came upon this post. And I actually lost weight recently and instead of people thinking I did it in a healthy way (which I did!) someone actually started a rumor that I’m on crack and that’s how I lost weight. People are idiots sometimes!
Jackie! Heyyyyy! Thanks for stopping by, girl! People truly are idiots sometimes. Good thing people like us exist to balance this world out